Happy Mother’s Day

Hello Friend,

Thank you for coming on this fine Mother’s Day.

Something a little different with our tea today – a parable.

But before we get to that, please have a seat on my favourite couch. Many years ago I first glimpsed this couch from the back, across a large discount warehouse, and I immediately knew it was meant for me. The modern Queen Anne style, the creamy white with soft taupe and light pink accents, and the cherry wood gracing the backrest and down the armrests. It was the only one they had – like I said, meant for me alone. I didn’t have to think twice. And it’s the perfect place to get comfy and listen to a little story.

In honour of my mom, we’re having one of her favourite cookies – Jam Jams.

Tea? Please help yourself to cream and sugar.

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Image by Terri Cnudde from Pixabay

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I’ve often thought that Mother’s Day isn’t only to celebrate mothers who have given birth to and/or raised children. It is a day to celebrate all kinds of mothering.

So in honour of mothers and mother-figures, I’m sharing the Parable of Motherhood by Temple Bailey.

It is written about a woman who starts out in life as a young mother, and who raises her children until they are grown. Perhaps you didn’t walk a journey like this one. Instead, you may have stepped in to the life of a child for part of their journey, as an auntie, a friend, a neighbour, a teacher, or even a stranger; to be mother in a young person’s life even for a moment. This is for you too.

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Parable of Motherhood

by Temple Bailey

The young mother set her foot on the path of life. “Is the way long?” she asked. And her guide said, “Yes, and the way is hard. And you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the beginning.”

But the young mother was happy and she would not believe that anything could be better than these years. So she played with her children and gathered flowers for them along the way and bathed with them in the clear streams; and the sun shone on them and life was good, and the young mother cried, “Nothing will ever be lovelier than this.”

Image by Serhii Kuch from Pixabay 

Then night came, and storm, and the path was dark and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her mantle and the children said, “Oh Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can come,” and the mother said, “This is better than the brightness of day, for I have taught my children courage.”

And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead and the children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary, but at all times she said to the children, “A little patience and we are there.” So the children climbed and when they reached the top, they said, “We could not have done it without you, Mother.” And the mother, when she lay down that night, looked up at the stars and said, “This is a better day than the last, for my children have learned fortitude in the face of hardness. Yesterday I gave them courage, today I have given them strength.”

Image by Mark Frost from Pixabay 

And with the next day came strange clouds which darkened the earth, clouds of war and hate and evil — and the children groped and stumbled, and the mother said, “Look up. Lift your eyes to the light.” And the children looked and saw above the clouds an Everlasting Glory, and it guided them and brought them beyond the darkness. And that night the mother said, “This is the best day of all for I have shown my children God.”

And the days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years, and the mother grew old, and she was little and bent. But her children were tall and strong and walked with courage. And when the way was rough they lifted her, for she was as light as a feather; and at last they came to a hill, and beyond the hill they could see a shining road and golden gates flung wide.

Image by Ferenc Wilmek from Pixabay 

And the mother said, “I have reached the end of my journey. And now I know that the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk alone, and their children after them.”

And the children said, “You will always walk with us, Mother, even when you have gone through the gates.”

And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, and the gates closed after her. And they said, “We cannot see her, but she is with us still. A mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a Living Presence.”

Image by Daria Nepriakhina from Pixabay 

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Thank you for coming today. See you next time.

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Featured image of pink tulips by Olga Oginskaya from Pixabay 

Birds and Flowers and Peppermint Tea

Hello Friend,

It’s so nice to see you!

Before you come in … look! Some of the tulips I planted in the fall are actually coming up!

I’m thrilled. I come visit them and talk to them every day. I tell them how brave they are for pushing through; some of this ground is quite unyielding. See these wee ones barely showing through the dirt? It’s less sunny here so it’s taken them a little longer, but what courageous tiny things, to persevere. They haven’t even bloomed yet and they’re bringing me so much joy.

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Photo by sergee bee on Unsplash

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The Cowboy and I were commenting that everyone’s yard is going to look amazing this year. Because we’re all at home, the yard work is getting done exceedingly well. Even our next-door neighbour, whom I rarely see outside, has been painting his fence.

Do you hear that? My Black-capped chickadee friends have been calling, hey sweetie, most of the morning.

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Image by PublicDomainImages from Pixabay 

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Now, come on in. Do you mind peppermint tea? It seems fitting for a fresh spring day. But it’s one of those things that people either love or hate so, just in case, I have everyday regular tea as well.

And, you might not want to risk the adventure of pairing peppermint tea with our treat today – Peanut Butter Bars. But I do. What could be better than chocolate and peppermint? Add a little peanut butter and … perfection!

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Image by congerdesign from Pixabay 

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I saw a news story recently reporting that dolphins have been spotted in the canals of Venice. Because no-one is using the famous waterways, nature is claiming them back. On the heels of those accounts were other reports that said the dolphin stories were fake news.

So hard to know what to believe these days. Stories can be made up. Photos can be doctored. I suppose, unless I see it with my own eyes, I should be wary of news stories. Even the ones that say I’ve been believing fake news.

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Image by David Mark from Pixabay 

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One thing I do know, there are more birds in my neighbourhood this year. I’m hearing melodious birdsong every day, unsmothered by squawks from magpies. I don’t know where the magpies are … maybe they’ll make their return yet. Last year we had a nest of noisy babies in our evergreen tree. We hardly heard one songbird all spring.

I don’t altogether hate magpies. They are regal looking, in their way, and I know they can consume large quantities of insects, which is helpful. But where I live they are quite pesky. And so loud, especially at four in the morning.

An interesting fact I learned about magpies this morning is that they don’t like to be looked at. Well, well.

The article suggested sticking a few pairs of eyes onto walls or tree trunks near a bird feeder that they like to steal from. And apparently, some Australian children glue paper eyes to the backs of their caps to deter magpies from swooping at them.

There’s your education for today.

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Image by HomeMaker from Pixabay 

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Has this season of isolation inspired you to take more notice of nature? We have been given such gifts, if only we’d stop and take it in: ever-changing cloud shapes, hundreds of different birdcalls, myriads of flowers springing forth to delight eyes and noses, and stately trees whispering in the breeze. Maybe where you live you are privileged to watch other wildlife; foxes, deer, ducks, geese. All of these are gifts.

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Perhaps in all this crisis, all this pain,

This reassessment of our loss and gain

Nature rebukes our brief authority

Yet offers us the chance to start again

And this time with new humility,

With chastened awe, and mutual courtesy;

To re-accept the unearned gift of life

With gratitude, with joy and charity.

Perhaps we’ll learn to live without so much

To nurture and to cherish, not to clutch,

And, if I’m spared, I’ll hold the years I’m given

With gentler tenure and a lighter touch.

Malcolm Guite

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It’s been lovely visiting with you. I wanted to tell you I’m so proud of you. You remind me of my growing tulips, so brave for pushing through. Some of this ground we are navigating is unyielding and not getting enough sun. It’s taken some of us a little longer to push through, and yet, how courageous you are to persevere. To keep going the best that you can. Well done!

Someone reminded me today that the opposite of sadness is not happiness. It’s hope. So hang on and dare to hope. Dare to walk through that door, believing hope is on the other side.

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We must remember that hope moves us. It brings us out of difficult, sad times to places we could never imagine.

Dr. Troy Backhuus

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Thank you so much for coming today. I’ve packaged up some peanut butter bars for you to take with you. If they stay here, I’ll eat them all. And that wouldn’t be good for any of us.

Stay safe out there, and see you next time.

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Featured image of flowered white teacups and pitcher by Jill Wellington from Pixabay 

The Simple Woman’s Daybook – May

Hello Friend,

How good of you to stop by. Come on in and make yourself at home.

I’ve saved your favourite chair, right here by the window where we can watch the young robin who recently arrived in our back yard. Isn’t he a smart-looking fellow?

Since it’s the first Monday of the month, I am joining my writing friend, Brenda, and others who contribute to The Simple Woman’s Daybook. It’s a blending of slow and simple, yet thoughtful, prompts.

In keeping with the theme, our tea will be a simple one too. Snappy ginger thins, and tea served in my wedding china teacups. The pattern is Royal Doulton, Diana.

I have to admit, when I chose my china thirty-seven years ago the name was significant. Princess Diana was already all the rage, having been married to Prince Charles for two years, and I loved following her in news reports, magazines, and even books dedicated to the fashions she wore. That was the social media of the day. But of course, the name was only an alluring bonus to the pattern of the china, which I loved immediately upon seeing it.

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Are you comfortable? Let’s get to The Simple Woman’s Daybook, May edition.

For Today

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Looking out my window …

I’m sure you noticed, as you approached my door, how the green has popped on our front lawn. And, a few of the tulips I planted in the fall are bravely pushing through the dirt. See? I can hardly wait for them to bloom.

Across the cul de sac, our neighbours have new solar panels on their roof, and I do a double take every time I look in that direction. It took a whole week to install them.

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I am thinking …

of my mom who lost a dear sister this week. And of how she was unable to go to the small graveside service because of the current situation.

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I am thankful …

for sunshine and fair weather, and a cozy home when it’s cold and rainy outside, a comfy corner to lose myself in a book, and health and safety for all my family.

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One of my favorite things …

is this corner I’ve created with photos of our grandchildren. Each photo is a favourite shot of them, and the table on which they stand is my late grandma’s antique treadle sewing machine. Old and new, and a spread of five generations. I am reminded each time I walk past this corner that, just as Grandma’s sewing machine supports the photos of her great great grandchildren, her prayers for her family and future generations, while she lived, still support us and connect us to the past.

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I am creating …

intentional moments, with no multitasking. Just a moment to take in beauty and joy. I mentioned some of these in our May 1 visit

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I am reading …

Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? [by Bill Martin Jr. and Eric Carle] to my grandchildren via video-chat. It’s a favourite because every page has a small slide-open window. So fun as I hold up the slide-open window to the camera and say Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What do you see? I see …. and as I slowly slide the window open, the kids guess what’s behind the door … I see a red bird looking at me! There’s so much suspense as they push their faces closer to the screen to see what it could be. It’s delightful, but I’m so looking forward to the day when I can cuddle them as we read books together.

I’m also reading:

It’s Trevor Noah: Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood (the Young Reader edition) by Trevor Noah

A Train in Winter – An extraordinary story of women, friendship and survival in WWII by Caroline Moorehead

A Light from Heaven (from the Mitford Series) by Jan Karon

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Before we carry on, let me top up your tea. Another ginger thin? There’s hardly anything to them, have a couple more.

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I am watching …

Seachange: an Australian series I found on Acorn TV. It was filmed in 1998! But what drew me to it was the main character – Sigrid Thornton – who played Jessica Harrison in Man From Snowy River, which debuted in 1982.

Some couples have a song. The Cowboy and I have a movie – Man From Snowy River. It had all the elements we loved – horseback riding, ranching, young love, adversity, courage, integrity, and Kirk Douglas. We watched Sigrid Thornton in another mini-series way back in the 80’s – All the Rivers Run – but I hadn’t seen her in anything since then. So, I guess I was drawn to it because of the tie to “our movie”.

In Seachange she plays a high society city lawyer whose life falls apart, and she moves herself and her children to a small seaside town where she becomes a magistrate. It is a lighthearted enjoyable show. Just perfect for the season we’re in.

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I am listening to …

the soundtrack to Foyle’s War.

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I am hoping …

to find more time for reading this week.

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I am learning …

to be gentle with myself in this season. As one friend mentioned, she has a lower reserve margin these days. For me, that’s it exactly. I’m learning that it’s okay if I can’t accomplish “all the things”. And it’s okay if some items on the list get pushed to the back burner until events right themselves. A new normal takes time to get used to, especially when it is always changing.

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In my kitchen …

Chicken soup on the stove and biscuits in the oven.

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In my garden …

The Cowboy is transforming our yard; trimming trees, power-washing and then staining the fence, installing wooden borders around flowerbeds. He’s a gardening machine.

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Post Script …

My writing friend, Brenda, has created a beautiful blog where she reminds us to look for glimpses of heaven in unexpected places. Give her a visit. I know you will feel right at home at It’s a Beautiful Life.

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Shared Quote

Sit with winners. The conversation is different.

Not sure where this quote originated, but I first heard it from Dr. Jody Carrington, Kids These Days

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A moment from my day …

This early Mother’s Day gift arrived for me five days ago, but I haven’t unpacked it because every time I see it, the joy bubbles sparkle through me. I love gifts.

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Closing Notes …

Thank you for visiting today, it was a pleasure to have you. Take care out there.

See you next time.

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Featured image of woman pouring from lemon teapot by Jill Wellington from Pixabay

Lemon Cake and Stress Relief

Hello Friend,

Oh I AM glad to see you today, on this first day of May. Thank you so much for coming.

I’m looking forward to our lemon cake. I hope you don’t mind that it’s not from scratch; I pulled a cake mix out of the pantry. Unfortunately, I didn’t have the three required eggs. I only had two, so I mixed in a little extra water and oil. Maybe that was a big miscalculation, because the cake came out all crumbly and falling-apart.

However, I managed to salvage two held-together portions for you and me, that look very much like a piece of cake. At first I was going to serve it with Mom’s old Vanilla Pudding Icing – delicious on top of any cake.

Pudding Icing

1 envelope Dream Whip (2 to 2-1/2 cup yield)

1 pkg. vanilla instant pudding

1-1/2 cups cold milk

1 tsp. vanilla (optional)

Whip topping, instant pudding powder, milk, and vanilla. 2 minutes. Let sit to thicken. (If using food colouring, omit vanilla)

But then I watched The Cowboy dump a bunch of cake chunks in a bowl, top it with whipped topping and strawberries, and pronounce it one of my best cakes, so I changed my mind.

Whipped topping and fresh strawberries. This will be very much like a five-star from-scratch lemon cake made by the world’s best baker. See what a little extra help can do?

And we’ll have tea too, of course.

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Image by RitaE from Pixabay 

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I have to admit, my cake mishap is a picture of how my week started out. Crumbly and falling apart. The Cowboy rarely sees me so stressed. My unrest got him uptight and, like many men, he had all kinds of solutions. And Babe came to the rescue with suggestions that work for her when she needs to calm her nerves.

Like I said, it’s rare for me to fret, and I’m not sure what set me off. Perhaps just giving in to that thick layer of gauze I mentioned in a past visit, fear of that virus cloud that hangs over us all in varying forms, and doesn’t seem to be leaving anytime soon.

I mentioned my anxiety to a friend, and immediately upon reading my text she video-called. Later, Peaches listened and encouraged me too, even to the point of checking in at bedtime. How wonderful to be so cared for.

The Cowboy, Babe, Peaches, and my friend were the whipped topping and strawberries to my crumbling lemon cake. They were there just when I needed them, to make things better. I thank God for them.

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A friend loves at all times, and is born, as is a brother, for adversity.

Proverbs 17:17 AMP

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Image by Oldiefan from Pixabay

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What kinds of things help you to stay calm?

For me, as the week went on, I made a point to stop whatever I was doing. Then, create one intentional simple experience. No multitasking allowed in those moments.

I often have music playing in the background while I’m going about my day, but in these intentional moments I would close my eyes and just listen. Just listen. Take it in. My favourite this week was a playlist I found called Peaceful Guitar. No words, no accompaniment, just one guitar.

A few times in the week I went out to our patio and sat, eyes closed, face turned to the sun. Felt the warmth, soaked it in. Took deep breaths.

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In walking, just walk. In sitting, just sit. Above all, don’t wobble.

Yun Men

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I took moments to leaf through a home design magazine. I love looking at photos of beautiful homes. Bright kitchens with countertops that sparkle, spacious airy bedrooms, cozy bathrooms. And lovely landscapes too.

Other times, I made a point of stopping to listen to birdsong, opening the windows to let their sweet melodies in. One morning, I was awake at 4 a.m. when the birds were just beginning to sing. Instead of brooding about not being able to sleep, I just listened. It was heavenly lying there warm and cozy, soft pillow under my head, breathing and listening. In that attitude it didn’t take long to fall back to sleep.

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Image by Greg Krycinski from Pixabay 

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Of course, praying goes almost without saying. For me, praying is like breathing. It’s a continual conversation with God. I speak. He speaks. He listens. I listen. As His child, I feel comfortable telling Him things, and I can tell Him anything. Happy things, frustrating things, the littlest things, and the too-big-for-words things. Because He has proven His love and care for me in the past, I know I can trust Him with my happy or heated words. He gives …

beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness

Isaiah 61:3b NKJV

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I have enjoyed our visit today. I hope you will come again. And I hope, if you’re ever feeling anxious, that some of the intentional simple moments I created for myself this week might inspire you to create your own. Take care out there.

See you next time.

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Next time a sunrise steals your breath or a meadow of flowers leaves you speechless, remain that way.

Say nothing, and listen as heaven whispers,

‘Do you like it? I did it just for you.’

Max Lucado

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Featured image of woman pouring from lemon teapot by Jill Wellington from Pixabay