My Guest, Meaghan Jackson

 

Meaghan Jackson is my guest writer today.

 

The Power of Gratitude

I wake up feeling the day is already getting ahead of me before I even get out of bed. Tired from a rough night with the baby, my oldest son comes in early just to let me know he is up.

During breakfast the boys are determined to annoy each other. They are loud and I am not in a good mood. I look at the clock and realize we are running late. Honestly I can’t even remember what we were going to be late for (could have been an appointment or play-date). Doesn’t really matter now. I do know that I rushed us through breakfast, hurried to pack our bag for the day, then began herding the boys toward the door. This usually consists of reminders, begging, pleading, and screaming. Finally they are in the car and I realize I’m not ready myself.

Driving down our laneway I wish the day was over. I am weary and tired of being angry all the time. How can I continue on through the whole day like this? There must be something that can get us out of this funk we are in!

There is something.

There is someone.

I stop the car and begin to pray. Of course the boys are screaming for me to turn on the radio and get driving. It is a quick prayer but I know that God understands.

I turn off the radio and address my boys, “Boys we have gotten off to a rough start today. I really need your help to change things around.”

I’ll share with you a secret weapon I have used many times to turn around a bad day. It is called gratitude! So simple, yet so powerful.

At first my boys are waiting for a lecture, or more crazy shouting mommy. But instead I choose to find something good about our day.

“I am thankful we have somewhere to go this morning”

“I am thankful our van works and has gas in it”

“Hey mommy, remember the time the wheel fell off the van? I’m thankful it is back on!”

“I am thankful for our breakfast”

“It’s a nice day out today. Can I be thankful for that?”

We continue chatting while I drive to our destination. Everyone is feeling so much better, friendlier and thankful. Joy is a choice not a feeling. We need to be intentional about fighting off those negative feelings. Sure bad things happen all the time, but there has got to be something worth living for. Some scrap of joy to hold on to.

My boys and I have used this powerful trick many times. They have even had to remind me to be more thankful on occasion. Ann Voskamp’s devotional for her book One Thousand Gifts got me to start writing things down. On particularly rough days when we are feeling down we take a look back at things mommy is thankful for. I know my eldest son appreciates seeing in print how thankful I am for the little things he does.

I think this simple little song by Veggie Tales pretty much sums up the powerful principle of being thankful.

 

The Thankful Song by Veggie Tales

I thank God for this day,
For the sun in the sky,
For my mom and my dad,
For my piece of apple pie!
For our home on the ground,
For His love that’s all around,
That’s why I say thanks every day!
Because a thankful heart is a happy heart
I’m glad for what I have,
That’s an easy way to start!
For the love that He shares,
‘Cause He listens to my prayers,
That’s why I say thanks every day!

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Meaghan Jackson

Meaghan Jackson is a Christian mom with wonderful young boys and a fabulous husband. She loves all crafts, baking, and blogging. They are a homeschooling family and look forward to sharing this journey with you at http://joyfulmudpuddles.blogspot.ca

Oh for the Love of Disney

I posted this article way back in 2014 on my other blog, now defunct. But as I was culling through old posts I realized this one was too good not to share again:

 

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My husband loves my convertible. It is my car but … he picked it out & I okayed it. When we were looking for a car for me and he suggested I needed a convertible, I questioned what in the world I needed one of those for. But we got the convertible. He asks for my permission whenever he wants to drive it — which is frequently.

However, apparently I’m not the coolest convertible owner. Yes I drive around with the top down. But the music pealing from my CD player is not ACDC, The Rolling Stones, Queens of the Stone Age or even Beyonce. It is Mendelssohn, Chopin, Mozart. My music is not conducive to revving engines.

Occasionally I throw in other fun music, like singer/songwriter type stuff or soundtracks from movies. I recently purchased 2 complete albums of music from the 1920’s.

Picture this: Hubby borrows my car and drives around town with the top down, enjoying the weather and the great car. While stopped at a red light he notices pedestrians looking at him oddly. He is used to people nodding in appreciation of a cool car. He knows those looks. These are different.

Suddenly he takes note of the music blaring from the CD player (because when you drive a convertible you must blare music — it is an unwritten rule). My husband is a big guy, a skilled businessman, and a cowboy at heart – not a wimp in the least. But what he realizes he is proclaiming to the world in this humiliating moment is … the theme from Disney’s         A Bug’s Life.

Was a bug, little bug, hardly there
How he felt, what he dreamed, who could care?
Without any evidence
(His flaws were many)
He was full of confidence
(Some people haven’t any)
Didn’t have much common sense
(It’s highly over-rated)
He just knew that he’d come through
It’s the time of your life so live it well

Oh yes my dear, it IS the time of your life. And while you’re living it well, maybe take along some of your own CD’s.

 

 

Lyrics for “The Time of Your Life” written by Randy Newman

One Thing

 

I’ve been reading lots of New Year’s blogs.

People are listing things they learned in 2015.

11 things I learned in 2015

15 things I learned in 2015

52 things I learned in 2015

All the things I learned in 2015

Other people are listing goals and resolutions for 2016.

12 ways to make the write resolution

16 goals to set for next year

50 New Year resolutions and how to achieve each

 

Whoa!

I’m all for lists.

I like learning things.

Goals are good things … usually.

But at this stage of my life a list of 11 or 16 or 52 things (heaven forbid!) is too long a list to take with me as I hike through life over the next year.

I like 3.

1 is better.

Yes, one thing I have learned is that it is best if I focus on One Thing.

I don’t need to write it down somewhere and then forget where I put my list. I can keep it in my head!

After all, if I have to write down what I’ve learned, have I really learned it at all?  If I have actually learned something, shouldn’t it just be part of who I am now?  Shouldn’t it be somewhere in that vast data base in my head?  Even have become part of my character? Do I have to keep a list to remind me of what I already know?

A skilsaw and a circular saw are actually the same thing.  Oh that’s right.  I know that!  I’m so glad I had that on my list of things I learned this year.

I have also learned that when God asks me to do something, obedience is non-negotiable. But I don’t need to write it down.  It has become so much a part of me that I rarely question the why’s or what if’s anymore when God speaks.

As for goals, I like the feeling of accomplishment as I check off things on my list.

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  Water the plants – check

  Buy a gift for Mom – check

But for the most part, a list of goals stresses me out. I can’t rest until they are all done. Even if it is a goal that will take a year to accomplish, it niggles and niggles at me until it is done, and then I can finally breathe. I can’t relax and enjoy the ride. That’s just how I roll.

Recently, I was part of a Facebook discussion on the statement that goals are meant to be flexible. That is, you make your goals but you are constantly readjusting said goals in order to fit your life and unforeseen roadblocks.

Hmmm. That’s interesting. But I’m wondering … if you are constantly readjusting your goals, what kind of goals are they? Aren’t you then failing to meet a goal you have set? Are you just trying to make yourself feel better for not meeting your goal?

If goals are meant to be flexible, wouldn’t they be called suggestions?

It’s confusing to me.

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In the 100 metre race, the goal is to cross the finish line at 100 metres. You don’t move the finish line to 87 metres just because you can’t make it the full 100.

If I decide that I’m going to lose 10 pounds a month, but then I get to the end of January and have only lost 5, do I say to myself, just kidding … my goal was to lose 5? That doesn’t work for me because I’d still be kicking myself that I didn’t lose 10.

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No, my goals can’t be flexible. It wouldn’t work for me. I’ve learned that when I make a goal or resolution, I better make good and sure that I am physically able and mentally capable to accomplish it. I’m too much of a perfectionist and it’s not worth the guilt and self-loathing that accompany broken resolutions.

As far as New Year resolutions go, I prefer to use a method my sister-in-law introduced to me:

Think over the last year and choose one or two things that I did right.

Then, decide to continue doing that thing right. Even improving on it.

It promotes the idea of growth and forward movement rather than making some unmanageable or unreachable goal.

It works for me, makes my life a little less stressful, and helps me focus on positives rather than negatives.

So here’s my One Thing. It is based on the Bible verse Luke 10:27 – “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbour as yourself.

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Love God, love people.

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That’s it.

That’s my One Thing.

And what I love about it is that those four little words encompass all kinds of creativity.

No stress. No lists to lose.

Just One Thing to keep at the forefront of my brain as I walk through this next year.

What’s your One Thing?

 

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Ring Those Christmas Bells

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I love Christmas carols. I love how, for about 6 weeks of the year, believers and non-believers alike are singing praises and glo-o-o-o-o-oooo-o-o-o-o-oooo-o-o-o-o-ooorias.

Secular radio stations are dashing through the snow to deck the halls, asking Santa Baby for yachts and diamond rings, and wondering how on earth Grandma could get run over by a reindeer.

But they are also proclaiming Therefore, Christian men, be sure, wealth or rank possessing, ye who now will bless the poor, shall yourselves find blessing.

And

O morning stars, together proclaim the holy birth! And praises sing to God the King, and peace to men on earth.

And

O come let us adore Him, Christ the Lord.

 

Even Charlie Brown sings “Glory to the newborn King”!

What kind of weird and wonderful world IS this?? That Christ’s name should be heard and sung by people who haven’t yet grasped the miraculous idea of God’s precious life-giving, soul-saving gift.

It makes me wonder as I wander, and giggle like a babe in Toyland.
Yet some could say that it isn’t the most wonderful time of the year, 2015. It’s not a yum-yummy world made for sweethearts. They would agree with Henry Wadsworth Longfellow’s words, “There is no peace on earth, I said”.

When Longfellow penned the words to his poem “Christmas Bells” on December 25, 1864, he was still grieving the death of his wife, Fanny. She had been fatally burned in an accident 3 years before, on the very same day that the first shot of the American Civil War was fired. In 1862 his journal entry for Christmas Day reads, “ ‘A merry Christmas’ say the children, but that is no more for me.”

In 1863 he learned that his oldest son, Charles, had been severely wounded in battle.

So in 1864, Longfellow’s world was not at peace either, and hadn’t been for years. What’s more, he had been personally affected by the war.

He wrote seven stanzas to his poem that Christmas Day in 1864. Two of them are never sung in our version of “I Heard the Bells on Christmas Day” but I think they are important to include because they give us a good idea of Longfellow’s world, which strikingly parallels our own. They help us to understand why he said, “there is no peace on earth”, and to remind us that “God is not dead, nor doth He sleep”.

 
In our writers group this month we were challenged to write a new verse to a favourite Christmas carol.

The words “there is no peace on earth, I said” resonated so much with me that I did some research on the song and then added my own verse at the end – my proclamation in response to the stanzas before it.

 

 

Christmas Bells
(Longfellow’s original poem, complete with all seven stanzas, and an extra one added at the end by Joy)

I heard the bells on Christmas Day
Their old familiar carols play,
And wild and sweet
The words repeat
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

And thought how, as the day had come,
The belfries of all Christendom
Had rolled along
The unbroken song
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

Till, ringing, singing on its way,
The world revolved from night to day,
A voice, a chime
A chant sublime
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

Then from each black accursed mouth
The cannon thundered in the South,
And with the sound
The carols drowned
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

It was as if an earthquake rent
The hearth-stones of a continent,
And made forlorn
The households born
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!

And in despair I bowed my head;
“There is no peace on earth,” I said;
“For hate is strong,
And mocks the song
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!”

Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:
“God is not dead; nor doth he sleep!
The Wrong shall fail,
The Right prevail,
With peace on earth, good-will to men!”

Now let me gather up my faith.
My God’s at work; His love is great.
Loud let bells ring,
And I will sing,
Of Peace on earth, good-will to men!

God is not dead, nor doth He sleep. He’s still at work. He’s still Love. He’s still in charge.

So rest ye merry, sojourners, let nothing you dismay. Remember, Christ, our Saviour, was born upon this day: to save us all from Satan’s power when we were gone astray.

O tidings of comfort and joy, comfort and joy.
O tidings of comfort and joy.

 

 

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This article first appeared at InScribe Writers Online , December 20, 2015.

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